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Thanks for reading! As the years pass since my husband passed (2006) the themes and subjects of my blogs have changed. For new widows and widowers, I think most helpful for you are the blogs I wrote early on...where you are now. Please use the "archive" button to find any and all blogs from "the bad old days..." to relate, find relief and hopefully, a chuckle, too.

Sex & Jewelry

It’s late and I’d like to get to sleep, but I can’t. I can’t because this evening I wore that stupid bracelet that’s impossible to take off by myself. Damn. Why didn’t I remember that? Jimmy used to bargain with…

Killing Me With Kindness

Everyone wants to help the widow. On line at the supermarket if I happen to be wearing black and I happen to let it slip that my husband recently passed away it’s a sure bet that I’ll be ushered to…

Business As Unusual

I was a spoiled brat of a wife. I was. Bills? What are they? I’ve heard about people who get the shakes when they open the mailbox. They anticipate the bills overflowing and swallowing them up. Not me, not then….

I Hated Everyone In My Bereavement Group

I’m one of those people who can just look at a stranger and hate her like she stabbed my best friend. I’ve always been grateful for this ability to weed out the boring and annoying. This is why I after…

Hard To Bereave It

My friend Barbara told me I should join a beweavement group. I said, ‘I’m not really into arts and crafts.’ ‘BeReavment!’ she said louder, but not too loud because everyone is very very gentle around me lately. I appreciate this…

Plucked

Jimmy was plucked. That is the best way I can put it. Everyone else is still around but where’s Jimmy? It just isn’t fair. It isn’t fair to him. It isn’t fair to me. It isn’t fair to our kids,…

I Don’t Like Tomatoes

I realized today that I may never buy another tomato. I don’t like tomatoes. My kids don’t like tomatoes and whoever stops by for dinner can just live without them and be happy they got lettuce. I spent a ridiculous…

Avoiding Jane Gould

Four and a half months has passed and it’s still hard to be out in my neighborhood because there are always ‘the loose end people’ – The ones who still don’t know that Jimmy has died. (see post “Is That…

Last Spouse Standing

In another 45 minutes it will be August 26th, our 34th anniversary. We used to laugh and say that we have a pretty good shot to being one of those couples married 50 years. We were married at 22 so…

Could You PLOTZ?

Some people are just hell bent on outdoing others. I say I’m cold. You’re suddenly freezing. I’m hungry. You’re starving. I’ll bet this is how pnemonia was discovered. One cave man chipped away on his cave “I have a cold.”…