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Thanks for reading! As the years pass since my husband passed (2006) the themes and subjects of my blogs have changed. For new widows and widowers, I think most helpful for you are the blogs I wrote early on...where you are now. Please use the "archive" button to find any and all blogs from "the bad old days..." to relate, find relief and hopefully, a chuckle, too.

Some Things Never Change

So, I went to Atlantic City. I didn’t go with my girlfriends. I went with my good friend Marty…who Jimmy and I have known for more than 20 years. Am I spelling out p l a t o n i…

Into The Closet

I have a running conversation with Jimmy in my head that only stops when I’m asleep. I doze off and we both rest in peace. This is not all that different from our marriage. I’m sure his version of heaven…

Celebrity Baseball

At Yankee Stadium – Jimmy holding ‘the duck’ and me. Each season brings it’s own memories. This year’s World Series between the St. Louis Cardinals and the Detroit Tigers made me react as I do every year….”Who cares?” True, I’m…

What If We Lived Life Backwards?

Okay, I admit it – the following is not original – It was sent to me by my ex-ex bereavement counselor (yes, I quit group number 2 – if only it had been this easy to give up smoking) I’ve…

NOW

Fear is all around me. Friends and family watched Jimmy disappear within a month. How could they not be frightened? “What are we waiting for?” they say, “Let’s take that trip to Italy NOW.” The NOW, of course, is ‘before…

Bereavement Group 101

I’ve never had much patience or tolerance for old people. Society tells us to expect age to bring wisdom and a clear perspective on life, but most people approach the end of their lives fearful and bitter. My friends and…

The Right Place At The Wrong Age

As I thought about returning to my new and improved bereavement group something very odd happened. I noticed I’m sort of kind of looking forward to it. It’s not the kind of eagerness I feel when my little granddaughter Skylar…

Another Day, Another Bereavement Group

I went and did it. I joined another bereavement group. I know. I know. After reading my previous post “I Hated Everyone In My Bereavement Group” even a really dumb person would figure I was done with group grieving and…

File Cabinets Aren’t Used To File Your Nails

I needed a place to put all the files and papers and bills. For thirteen years Rae, Jimmy’s assistant had a fine tuned system. His office hummed (and it wasn’t from one of those fluorescent fixtures) In cracker jack time…